So remember the job as the leasing consultant that I didn't show up for?
Well, I never called them either, and so I spent 3 days NOT answering my cell phone.
Why didn't I just call and tell them I couldn't take the job?
Instead I couldn't answer the cellphone that I pay for!
I gave up power! I've done this sooo much in my life. I must stop.
I found a bookmark at Women's Dermatologic Society called "Ways People Give Away Power". It lists the following as the 3 ways people give away power:
1. Assumes they are wrong (even when others disagree).
2. Don't Express Feelings (when angry or annoyed).
3. Forget the relationship when disagreeing (with personal attacks).
4. Overly concerned with being liked (and receiving approval).
It was interesting.
Gratitude Moment: I'm grateful for the Internet and for having a desire to change parts of me I don't like.
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Oh god I keep doing that!! I missed a driving test in much the same way, and umpteen doctors appointments. I've learned this kind of avoidance thing where I just...ignore things I dont want to deal with.
Your post is well put. We're giving away power. Giving away control, and submitting ourselves to the whims of others.
~Shiv
My goodness....I absolutely love this blog. You are so very witty...I like how you look at things.
I give my power away in exactly the ways you described. I have so much trouble saying no...or no thankyou, not interested. Like you, I have been hired and just never show up. I know the feeling of the phone ringing, and I cannot answer it. On those days I am grateful for call display, but just wish I could stand in my own strength.
Is it bipolar that does this to me...or is it in my "emotional makeup"? I just wish I knew.
Laurie
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